You’d think it would be a simple enough task, when you factor in the numbers of single submissive males on a community site like b com. Even after sifting through a batch of some that might fit, I can’t seem to find the energy to sprint off the blocks. That first hurdle is always the hardest, my Professional status.

Filtering out those males that can’t see the forest for the trees can be very frustrating. Frustrating most is that practically perfect boys don’t give my livelihood the same level of respect- afforded a 7-11 clerk. They beg to be used, but give nothing in kind, and blow their chance to Serve the kind of Top they profess to desire. 

What’s up with that?

Are my standards too high? They weren’t in the past.

• Single
• Professional
• Enjoys & has the means to travel
• Good social skills
• Tidy
• Fits our style of BDSM

Every few weeks I spend a few hours digging around Profiles, to see if there might be a gent, worthy to follow in my wake and become a part of an exciting circle of lifestyle and business friends. Several times I have been tempted to write, but haven’t had the energy to prepare myself for the onslaught of negativity, that always wounds my feelings. It’s tough to be a tender Dom.

My nature is to care, with my sights set on perfection, and I acknowledge that Service to a Serious Fem Dom, is never easy. However, Rules and directions wrapped in patience and benevolence, is to me - the essence of a committed Trainer. Attention to details and the skills to guide the bottom to shine under mentorship, is the true Service - offered by this Professional Mistress.

So, how does a fussy Pro Dom find that perfect boy to push around? What is She to do when both see the vast possibilities, but all he can focus on is the business model? A pity our own scene culture is so quick to jump to conclusions, which negate the finer points of an open-minded society- like the one we profess to be.

Sigh, maybe I am just too old-fashioned for today’s tastes or maybe my skills, no longer have value. Still I will press on and troll, I mean, research – yeah -research hard for that one in a million, extra special servant, who fits like a kid glove and can make a perfect cuppa Joe.